Showing posts with label Grieving. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Grieving. Show all posts

Monday, August 27, 2012

Don't Wait


If there was anything I needed to say to her, this was the time, and it would be my last opportunity.  

The final story in the forthcoming pro-life book God Moments III:  True Love Leads To Life.  

Sisters Belinda and Michele

It was almost Christmas 2011, and my sister Belinda was near death. Recently, she had been released from an unexpectedly long stay at the hospital.  She was admitted because her white blood cell counts were low, and had already been informed that cancer had spread throughout her body, and she was dying.  One medical condition after another presented itself.  At one point she went into renal failure, and we were all informed her condition was hopeless and she had at most several more days left to live. However, it is God alone and not man who has the right to decide who lives and who dies, and when.  Six weeks later, after various treatments for the conditions that presented themselves one after another, she was finally discharged from the  hospital. 

It was a triumphant day of sorts when our mother and I accompanied her home on this last leg of her journey.  Before I headed home, the three of us sat in the living room and chatted about the events of the last several weeks.

Two things stand out in my mind about that conversation.  

Belinda had spent years compiling our family genealogy and thanks to the computer age, she was able to maintain contact via e-mail and skype with our beloved relatives around the world. I asked her about her experience in the hospital, when she was on the brink of death.  She said she didn’t feel like she was dying, perhaps because as she said, “Nobody came for me.”  She shook her head.  All those relatives that had preceded us in death and whose personal stories she knew so well, and  “Nobody came for me.” 

They knew it wasn’t her designated time yet. 

She also said that material things, which never had any great importance to her unless used to help other people, were now of no concern to her at all.  We spoke briefly about what is of true, and eternal value, a subject we had discussed so many times before.   

Belinda’s health deteriorated rapidly after that day. 

Belinda kept pictures of us, on one of our last trips together, by her bedside

The day before she died, I went to Holy Mass and then brought her Jesus in the Blessed Sacrament.  At that point she was no longer able to see or speak, but when the Host was placed on her tongue she clearly knew He was there with her and wanted to receive Him. She seemed to savor His Real Presence there on her tongue.

That day, my mother and brother and I were there with Belinda, and I remained with her when  my mother and brother left to run some errands.     

A kind woman from hospice had recently made a very helpful recommendation.  It broke Belinda’s heart to be leaving us, and our family had spoken of the moment that was coming when we would most likely need to give Belinda our permission to go to God.  What I had not thought of was how important it was to Belinda to know that our mother would be all right.    

And so I was left that day with Belinda all to myself as she lay in her bed dying, and realized that the opportunity I knew was coming had arrived.  If there was anything I needed to say to her, this was the time, and it would be my last opportunity.  

To be concluded... 

The conclusion of the story:  http://godisatworkinyou.blogspot.com/2012/08/dont-wait.html

Monday, May 7, 2012

Litany For A Good Death



Litany For A Good Death


O Lord Jesus, God of goodness and Father of mercies,
I draw nigh to Thee with a contrite and humble heart;
to Thee I recommend the last hour of my life,
and that judgment which awaits me afterwards,

Merciful Jesus, have mercy on me.

When my feet, benumbed with death,
shall admonish me that my course in this life is drawing to an end,

Merciful Jesus, have mercy on me.

When my hands, cold and trembling,
shall no longer be able to clasp the Crucifix,
and shall let it fall against my will on my bed of suffering,

Merciful Jesus, have mercy on me.

When my eyes, dim with trouble at the approach of death,
shall fix themselves on Thee, my last and only support,

Merciful Jesus, have mercy on me.

When my lips, cold and trembling,
shall pronounce for the last time Thy adorable Name,

Merciful Jesus, have mercy on me.

When my face, pale and livid,
shall inspire the beholders with pity and dismay;
when my hair, bathed in the sweat of death,
and stiffening on my head,
shall forebode my approaching end,

Merciful Jesus, have mercy on me.

When my ears, soon to be for ever shut to the discourse of men,
shall be open to the irrevocable decree which is to fix my doom for all eternity,

Merciful Jesus, have mercy on me.

When my imagination, agitated by dreadful specters,
shall be sunk in an abyss of anguish; when my soul,
affrighted with the sight of my iniquities and the terrors of Thy judgment,
shall have to fight against the Angel of darkness,
who will endeavor to conceal from my eyes Thy mercies,
and to plunge me into despair,

Merciful Jesus, have mercy on me.

When my poor heart, oppressed with suffering
and exhausted by its continual struggles with the enemies of its salvation,
shall feel the pangs of death,

Merciful Jesus, have mercy on me.

When the last tear, the forerunner of my dissolution,
shall drop from my eyes, receive it as a sacrifice of expiation for my sins;
grant that I may expire the victim of penance;
and then in that dreadful moment,

Merciful Jesus, have mercy on me.

When my friends and relations, encircling my bed,
shall be moved with compassion for me,
and invoke Thy clemency in my behalf,

Merciful Jesus, have mercy on me.

When I shall have lost the use of my senses;
when the world shall have vanished from my sight;
when my agonizing soul shall feel the sorrows of death,

Merciful Jesus, have mercy on me.

When my soul, trembling on my lips,
shall bid adieu to the world, and leave my body lifeless, pale and cold,
receive this separation as a homage in that last moment of my mortal life,

Merciful Jesus, have mercy on me.

When at length my soul, admitted to Thy presence,
shall first behold the splendor of Thy Majesty,
reject it not, but receive me into Thy bosom,
where I may for ever sing Thy praises,

Merciful Jesus, have mercy on me.

Let us Pray.

O God, Who hast doomed all men to die,
but hast concealed from all the hour of their death,
grant that I may pass my days in the practice of holiness and justice,
and that I may be made worthy to quit this world,
in the embrace of Thy love.
Through the merits of our Lord Jesus Christ,
Who liveth and reigneth with Thee
in the unity of the Holy Spirit.

Amen.